The deep conversation game for people who are tired of small talk
Asking for… is a question game for real conversations. Everyone asks the questions they've always wanted to ask, anonymously, aimed at one person or the whole group. We can add deeper ones of our own if you like. It works for old friends, family visits and long nights, and it runs in the browser, no download.
Conversations you keep meaning to have
- Ever wanted to ask your oldest friend if they're actually happy, and get something better than "yeah, good, busy"?
- Do you know what your parents wanted to be before they had you?
- Most people say they hate small talk. Most people then talk about the weather for 40 minutes.
- When did you last have a conversation you were still thinking about the next day?
- There's a question you've wanted to ask someone for years. It's probably fine to ask. It's definitely easier if they don't know it came from you.
Why deep questions are easier as a game
Deep questions are awkward to ask out of nowhere. You worry about seeming intense, or about the silence afterwards. A game takes that off you: the question just shows up, and everyone answers.
There's research behind this. Psychologist Arthur Aron found that strangers felt surprisingly close after about 45 minutes of gradually deeper questions, answered in turns. No single question did the work. Taking turns and going one step deeper each time did. Imagine what that does for people who already like each other.
Good moments for it: holidays at home with family, the last night of a trip, catching up with a friend you've drifted from, or the late night when nobody wants to go home yet.
How it works
Ask anything, anonymously. Aim a question at one person or the whole group, and nobody knows it came from you.
We can add questions that go a little deeper. You decide how many.
No download. Share a code and everyone plays from their phone.
FAQ
How do you start a deep conversation without it being awkward?
Start light and go deeper gradually, take turns answering the same question, and make it easy to pass. A question game handles all three, so nobody has to be the person who suddenly gets serious.
Can we play with family?
Yes. It works well across generations, and parents often turn out to have the best stories.
Can just two people play?
Yes. It works with two, and with three or more you can aim questions at a specific person.
Do we need to download an app?
No. Everyone joins from their phone's browser with a six-character code.